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Healing Metaphor

In my personal healing, I have used the story of Little Red Riding Hood as a metaphor for understanding coercive control and high-control groups. It's a great example of how creative therapies can help process difficult emotions in a manner that talking alone cannot do.

Lady Red & The Wolf

The tale of Little Red captures how trust, innocence, and good intentions can be exploited by someone who presents as safe or authoritative but is, in reality, predatory. To my mind, the term 'wolf in sheep's clothing' does not warn people as well as 'wolf in grandma's clothing'. The notion of the 'wolf' being an abstract being is not as apt as recognising their deception is more likely to prevail as them being someone masquerading as a innocent old lady. 

The wolf does not begin with force — he begins with charm, and the gentle misdirection of promising pretty flowers.  The gradual process of being led off our path is a subtle undermining of instincts and boundaries.

Revisiting this story through an adult analytical mind set, has been an empowering way to confront high-control cult issues. Little Red grew up to be Lady Red. The child once traumatised by a creature who used their listening skills to manipulate, their sight to gaslit, and their words to inflict fear, is now a woman who knows how to safe guard her house against unwanted intruders. 

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My Cape

They didn’t take her all at once,
Just questions first. Then sleep. Then run.
A daughter’s laugh turned scripture-bound,
And silence settled all around.

I watched it happen. Smile by smile.
A hunger strike. A witch-like trial.
A “Satanist,” they said I’d be.
For daring to ask, for trying to see.

Red walked that path too—hood pulled tight,
Promised truth in borrowed light.
The Wolf wore warmth, the forest sang,
But underneath: control, and fang.

And like me, she’d once believed
That love meant shrinking to be received.
She smiled through rules, through trials and prayer,
But I knew—one day—she’d breathe clear air.

The Wolf told her: “Your mother is dark.”
Said art was power. Power, a threat.
And women with cloaks? Best left behind.
But let’s be clear:
My cape is not his to define.

It’s not a costume—it’s memory’s thread,
Of cathedral flames and prayers once said,
Of journals and brushes, ink and hue,
A daughter who dreamed where the wild trees grew,
Told she was free, and believed it was true.

They tried to shame—called it wild,
Sewed fear where wonder touched my child.
Said truth must come in rigid size,
And mothers who question wear wolf disguise.

But I know the fabric; I’ve traced many seams.
It's cut from thought, from love, from dreams.
It is mine to wear, not his to sever,
Not to hide in—but to honour forever.

This website holds what I have learned:
From Vatican candles to bridges burned.
From peer-reviewed pages to fists in the air,
To watching my child vanish deep in his snare.

A cult’s filthy veil, worn like a crown,
To cover the light as it dragged her down.
I’ll names the tools, the tricks, the cost,
The swaps, the scripts, the self that’s lost.

But more than that—this book is proof
That we return, unhooked from “truth.”
We gather threads once thought were gone.
We stitch our names back into song.

My daughter walked into that wood,
Not naïve. Not broken. Just misunderstood.
Just open. Searching. Brave and good.
And the Wolf met her with answers cold,
That punished thought and thwart her soul.

He’d never met one like me who saw behind his grin,
With the lies that thinking is hidden sin.
That boldness is danger, that cloaks are a crime,
Red flags of rebellion against holy time.

But I kept my cape—not because I’m defiant,
But because I am whole, alive, and reliant.
Creation is not the foe of belief,
And courage is balm, not a source of grief.

This is what I gathered along the way:
Threads of psychology, faith, and sway,
The anatomy of control exposed,
And how to break the chains we incidentally chose.

A cloak, perhaps—not worn to hide,
But to reclaim with quiet pride.
To wear on my terms, in full bloom,
With the love of a mother who walked through gloom.
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Let’s name what happened. Let’s stitch it bright.
Let’s walk back out and reclaim the light.
Together we rise, with thread and flame—
Not lost. Not silenced. But calling it by name.

 

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