Cults and high-control groups often rely on systematic strategies that work precisely by undermining the three psychological needs of SDT (autonomy, competence, relatedness) and by usurping self-determination both individually and collectively. Some of the key tactics include:

CONTENT WARNING: THIS ARTICLE DISCUSSES SEXUAL ASSAULT. Seek support if this blog causes distress. In April 2026, an investigation by CNN exposed what’s being described as a global online “rape academy”— digital communities where men share tactics, encouragement, and footage related to the drugging and assault of women, often their own partners. The scale is confronting, with some platforms drawing millions of views and entire forums dedicated to targeting women who are

I wish we could normalise something very simple: Acknowledging what it actually means to be human. Because somewhere along the way, we’ve taken core human experiences—things like strength, freedom, capability, emotional depth, purpose—and divided them into “masculine” and “feminine” traits. And once you really look at that move, it doesn’t make sense. It creates confusion at best, and at worst, it becomes a tool for control. Let’s start with the basics.

We tend to treat privacy, secrecy, and transparency as if they sit on the same spectrum. As if more transparency is always good, and anything hidden must be suspect. But these concepts are not interchangeable. And in coercive cults and high-control groups, the confusion between them is not accidental—it’s functional.

Any spiritual group that causes someone to fear for their safety—physically, mentally, or emotionally—cannot possibly be healthy. That might sound obvious at first, but in high control environments, what feels obvious from the outside becomes deeply confusing from within. In conversations about coercive control, we often compare high control groups to unhealthy intimate relationships. The parallels are not just helpful—they’re essential for understanding what’s really happ

I turned to ChatGBT which we all know can make mistakes but it seemed like a better option than trying to work it all out by myself. The advice I received broke down the options and highlighted key decision-making criteria—function, price, and supporting evidence. Chat GBT flagged one model as “suspect” because it relied on self-reported customer feedback rather than third-party data. It also noted that this model was on the cheaper end of the spectrum, that is $299.